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VPSA Blog: September 19, 2018


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Time to Let Go

September 19, 2018

We all encounter fear, anger, and pain from time to time. Learning the appropriate ways to deal with difficult emotions is an important part of growth from childhood throughout adulthood. The ways that we handle our emotions can have deep impacts on our lives.

Imagine you’re handed a business card each time you respond to an experience with a negative emotion. Business cards are small and light, so it doesn’t seem like a big deal at first, but they pile up day by day, year by year. Eventually, you will have a stack of business cards so thick that you can barely hold onto them.

When we let go of negative emotions like hurt and doubt, our hands become free.

What will you miss out on while you’re tending to those reminders of sadness and doubt? Are you unable to shake hands with the person who would otherwise offer you a once-in-a-lifetime internship? Or maybe your cards are stacked so high that you can’t see around them, and you miss the signs highlighting the path to your dream job?

When we hold onto our fears, pain, and anger from the past, our hands are too full to prepare for and receive the good things coming our way. When we let go of negative emotions like hurt and doubt, our hands become free. With free hands, we can do the work and receive the positive experiences and outcomes that are available to us.

You may be familiar with the idea that “fear” stands for “False Evidence Appearing Real.” Fear, self-doubt, and similar emotions are masterful in their ability to distort our perceptions and hold us back from achieving our full potential. If you understand this, you have the upper hand in getting around those emotional obstacles.

It’s not always easy to see what we need to let go and when it’s time to do so. That’s why it is important to have a support system you can rely upon to check yourself. Your support system may include close friends or family members who are willing to listen and share some hard truths for your benefit, or it may be a therapist. When we’re feeling especially stuck, there’s no shame in sitting with someone who can help sort things out.

Each of us brings a unique perspective and ability to every situation we enter. Are your hands free to do the work and receive the rewards? Only then can you begin the journey to achieve your full potential.


How do you process your emotions in a healthy way? Let us know!



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